what to wear if he’s just not that into you

Mar 2, ‵09

So, your ego may be a little bruised because he didn’t pursue you with the vigor you thought he would. Well young lady… what you need to do is save a little face. Let’s face it, the battle of the sexes is about the constant shifting of power. When you realize he’s not interested in you, he has the power. You need to ‘shift‘ the power and regain control. How are you going to do that? Here’s how:
1. Men are visual.
You want to knock his socks off the next time you see him. You want him to notice you, but you don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard. You need to strike the balance between hot and cold – be smoldering. You should be able to walk the outfit comfortably and casually, like you just threw it on.
2. Men want what they can’t have.
Be a cool breeze, don’t look overly interested in him. Act as if he has no impact on your life, and you’ve moved on. If he’s with a woman, be VERY friendly to her. When you’re talking to him, be distracted. He’s NOT the most important thing on your mind right now.
3. Be happy.
Even if it’s killing you to see him, act content. You don’t want to act too giddy, as if you’re nervous. Just act comfortable in you skin - CONFIDENT! Swoop in to say “hello” and move on. You should be the one to end the conversation, leave him wanting more of your attention.

Party Look:
If you know you’re going to see him at a party, you want to look sexy without being slutty. The idea is to wear something that will show off your best assets. You don’t want it to be too short, or show too much. You want your “hotness” to be subtle not blatant. Don’t over do it on make-up and hair.

Casual Look:
If you know you’re going to see him at a bar or a restaurant, you want to exude relaxed confidence. Wear a pair of jeans that look AWESOME on you. Don’t overdo it on cleavage, or skin tight garments. Look chic, sophisticated, and self-assured. Be carefree, “Oh hey… how are you? You look great. Oh gosh, I’ve got to run and meet friends – it’s been great to see you though” Walk away as if the interaction meant next to nothing. Remember – you’re just not that into him now! I know, it seems silly to play these games. It seems like you’re just stooping to his level. Dating can be such a mess sometimes, but you have to manage your reputation just as you would your career. Anyway, like my six year old always says … “He started it!”. So, is the saying true – all is fair in love and war?